I am talking with Julia Hochstadt, LCSW, about how trauma can show up in your dating life and what you can to do get support. Many of the people I work with get support from trauma therapists.  Trauma deeply affects dating, their love lives and impacts their healing process. Because I am not an expert on the topic, I invited Julia to share information and resources around abuse, trauma, and dating.

Julia is a psychotherapist who has been working with survivors of trauma and crime in hospital-based and private practice settings for over two decades. She holds a Master’s Degree in Social Work from Columbia University. Our goal for this conversation is to bring to the forefront that domestic violence and abuse affect a lot of people. If you or someone you care about could benefit from information or support, know that help is out there.  

Trigger warning: In this episode, we talk about the themes of abuse and trauma. If that’s something you know wouldn’t serve you in your journey today, then please skip this episode.

Here’s a breakdown of today’s episode:

• The difference between big T trauma versus little T trauma. 

• How unprocessed trauma manifests in a person’s dating life. 

• How to decipher between dating nerves versus nerves related to unresolved trauma.

• The process of tapping into your body and trusting your gut.

• Sharing your past trauma or abuse with someone when you are afraid.  

• Advice to family, friends, or partners who might be on the receiving end of a loved one’s personal disclosure of past abuse or trauma.

• What we can do with the emotions that come up whenever a news story surfaces about men in power, like former Governor Andrew Cuomo, who violate the people around them. 

• Advice and insight for individuals resisting help from a therapist or dealing with other barriers to receiving support.

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

• Julia Hochstadt, LCSW 212-613-6204 // 201-374-7444

• Safe Horizon DV hotline 1-800-621-HOPE (4673)

• National DV hotline:  1-800-799-SAFE (7233) 

• RAINN: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) www.RAINN.org

• Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

• NYC Family Justice Centers https://www1.nyc.gov/site/ocdv/programs/family-justice-centers.page

• NY Coalition Against Domestic Violence https://www.nyscadv.org/ (518) 482-5465

• NJ Coalition to end Domestic Violence http://www.njcedv.org/ 1-800 572-7233

• Date Brazen on Instagram: @datebrazen

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