You’re in the right place.
No matter how different you think you are. You will have a magnetic, joyful dating life even if…
You’ve been in situationships or relationships where you were never fully chosen, leaving you doubting whether you’ll ever find someone who truly sees you. You’re done settling for less.
You’re tired of “almost” relationships.
You’ve been overfunctioning, putting in all the effort, but somehow still feeling drained and unfulfilled. You’re tired of chasing love, fixing things, and managing connections– dating feels like a sucky part time job.
You’re burned out from hustling in your dating life.
You’ve convinced yourself that it’s too late or that no one is out there for you. The idea of putting yourself out there again feels exhausting, and you wonder if it’s even worth the effort.
You assume it’s too late, so why try?
Therapy, self-help books, podcasts—you’ve tried it all, but when it comes to dating, you’re still stuck. You’re frustrated that you’re not seeing the progress that other parts of your life have.
You’ve done all the “work,” but nothing’s changed.
You’re told that desiring partnership makes you weak or that you’ll lose your independence. So you push it down, but the desire for a real connection still lingers, leaving you feeling conflicted.
You think being a feminist means you shouldn’t want a relationship.
Inside Main Character Dating, you will:
This program will teach you how to feel amazing about yourself now AND attracting the best relationship of your life.
It’s not about attracting any dusty, crusty relationship
Step into your unapologetic main character energy.
You’re done shrinking, waiting, and performing. You’re dating as your full, badass self—and actually enjoying it, because you know you're worthy of joy-filled dates.
Get the best dates of your life.
Not because you’ve changed who you are, but because you stopped hiding and started dating with an intentional, confident plan. Whether you're flirting IRL or swiping online, you’re magnetic, clear, and totally unbothered.
Spot what's not for you and release it—no more overthinking or settling for breadcrumbs
With clarity, you'll easily let go of what doesn’t align and walk away with zero drama or spirals. Moving you toward the right relationship faster.
Feel grounded, confident, and unstoppable.
Whether you’ve never dated before or just walked away from something that wrecked your confidence, you'll own exactly who you are and know exactly what you want—and how to get it.
"I joined this program because, even though I’d done so much work on the rest of my life, dating was the one place I didn’t feel supported. After this work, I’m now pursuing my joy differently, asking for what I want directly, setting bold boundaries that protect my heart time. I now have amazing, new single friends from this container and a juicy, joyful, in-person dating life that I know will lead to the right people for me."
"He’s serious about maintaining a healthy relationship, communicates well, and treats me like a queen. Now I know that I deserve nothing less for my life.”
Here's what a joyful AF dating life looks like:
“I broke a 15 year pattern of settling and am now going on the best dates of my life.”
“My dating life is like night and day. I met a partner who has become such an integral part of my life."
It’s a culture that treats coupled women as “ahead” of single women—making you feel like you’re “too late” and “falling behind” just for being single. It labels you “weird” because you haven’t followed the same prescribed timeline, then makes you feel like you’re somehow “embarrassing” for still wanting love.
It tells you to “be in your divine feminine,” as if your ambition, power, or energy is at fault for why dating has sucked.
It’s the outdated, patriarchal dating culture that’s taught you to shrink, to lose weight, to be less needy, to tone down your desires—just to be seen as worthy of love.
This isn’t just unhelpful—it’s harmful.
The Problem Isn’t You
That’s why Main Character Dating exists. To help feminist late bloomers like you shed the shame, own what they want and attract it confidently, on your terms.
You’ve been told to ignore your own voice and trust a set of rules that don’t serve you, that don’t honor your power, your needs, or your preferences.
The truth is, you’ve been taught to play small.
Main Character Dating
A 12-month group program for feminist late bloomers to build joyful, confident dating lives that make the right relationship inevitable.
What makes Main Character Dating different?
Designed for those who feel “behind” in dating, this takes you through every single step you need to feel confident and attract the right partner, whether you’ve never dated or just got out of a 20 year relationship.
Built for late bloomers, by a late bloomer
Attract the partner who’s right for you with self-trust, confidence, and a custom, joyful strategy.
Feminist approach + proven matchmaking strategy:
A supportive, badass community keeping you accountable, celebrating your wins, and helping you settle-proof every part of your life.
Your squad of cheerleaders:
I searched for help but the solutions I found felt hollow
From Late Bloomer to Main Character
Eight years ago, I was a top matchmaker, setting up hundreds of dates—but secretly, I was a "late bloomer," stuck in a toxic first adult relationship where I was settling daily.
I didn’t know what I needed. I was filled with shame and terrorized by the thought that I had missed my chance for the kind of love I wanted, thinking I was “too much” to deserve it.
When that relationship ended, I promised myself I would never settle again.
My therapist hadn’t dated in 30 years.
My friends told me to try another app or go on one more date.
I wanted something deeper—something real—and I couldn’t find it
So, I decided to build it for myself. I became my first client.
Since then, I’ve helped hundreds of brilliant feminist late bloomers, like you, create dating lives that are magnetic and actually lead to the kind of love they deserve.
I created a process that helped me stop settling, reclaim my desires, and start dating with clarity, confidence, and joy. That process led me to a joyful, empowered dating life—and the bonus? I met my now-husband, Chris.
When you join Main Character Dating, you’ll:
Stop second-guessing and start trusting your dating decisions
Feel confident flirting, dating, and being fully yourself
Attract aligned, emotionally available partners—online and IRL
You’ll know—deep in your bones—that the right relationship isn’t just possible. It’s on the way.
Get crystal clear on what you want and how to find it
This is the proven process that’s helped over 400 late bloomers build a joyful, unapologetic dating lives and make the right relationship inevitable. With easy-to-follow video lessons, captions, transcripts, and fillable workbooks, you’ll see results in just one hour a week.
Main Character Dating Framework
A settle-proof love life that makes the right relationship inevitable.
No more second-guessing yourself. This step is about getting clear on what you really want—no more shrinking or settling. You’ll uncover your full-body yeses and learn how to quickly vet dates, so you’re no longer stuck in situations that drain you. Your standards will become your superpower.
3. The Matchmaker Protocol: Illuminate Your Deeper Preferences
Out with the old, in with the new. Say goodbye to bad advice, doom-scrolling, and the pressure to fit into performative dating norms. You’ll detox from anxiety-driven decisions and get back to what truly aligns with your desires, ready to rebuild your dating life with clarity and intention.
2. The Feminist Dating Detox
Feeling overwhelmed or stuck? This is where you regain control. You’ll learn science-backed methods to calm your nerves and stop the spirals, so dating feels exciting instead of exhausting. This sets the stage for a more confident, clear approach to your dating life—without burnout.
1. Calm Your Freakout (aka Nervous System Reset)
Together, we’ll create a dating plan that fits you—your life, your personality, your desires. This strategy makes you magnetic, helps you flirt confidently IRL, and ensures you attract emotionally available people. Plus, we’ll fine-tune your dating app profile and walk you through your in-person approach.
4. Create Your Joyful AF Dating Strategy
You’re ready to date with confidence and joy—without the drama. This step gives you the tools to attract and release aligned partners with ease. Using our proven scripts, you’ll cut through the noise and take empowered action. With the "Thank You, More Please" challenge, you'll shift your mindset and start bringing in dates that feel right—and quickly.
5. Reignite Your Dating Life
What You Get Access To
Need support every day? Our Slack community is where the magic happens. Whether it’s a quick question, a celebratory win, or a moment of doubt, we’re here to guide you through it in real-time. Expect daily check-ins, feedback, and a constant stream of support from a group of fierce, like-minded late bloomers.
12 Months of Daily Coaching in Slack
for 12 months
Get personalized coaching from Lily and the team and get unstuck fast. We cover everything from getting over hopelessness, navigating new relationship nerves, and de-centering men in your dating life, to releasing biological clock pressure, finding aligned dates IRL, and more.
12 Months of Group Coaching Calls, 3x Per Month
A proven, step-by-step, feminist framework that has helped hundreds of late bloomers create joyful-as-fuck dating lives that lead to real love. You'll get everything you need to stop settling, get clear on what you want, and build the magnetic dating life that’s ready for the love you deserve.
12-Month Access to the Main Character Dating Curriculum
An additional coaching space for women and people of color in Main Character Dating, led by co-coach Amber. This is a safe, supportive space where you can connect, share experiences, and get personalized coaching from a culturally affirming lens.
Monthly POC Affinity Group Call
Never get stuck again! With scripts for every dating scenario, you’ll always know what to say when you feel tongue-tied, whether it’s sending the first text or navigating tricky conversations.
WTF to Say Next Guide
Access replays of all coaching calls over the last two years. Listen on-the-go or in-depth to any topic that speaks to you. Whether it’s about dating strategy, emotional boundaries, or trusting your gut, you’ll find the guidance you need when you need it most.
Live Call Replays + Private Podcast
Start every date feeling like a total badass with our exclusive pre-date meditation to ground you. Afterward, use the post-date meditation to reflect, recharge, and process the experience with confidence.
Pre and Post-Date Meditations
1:1 Dating Profile Review, 1:1 Post-Date Feedback, Flirting 101 Masterclass, New Relationship Lab, and more!
And our high touch features!
High Touch, Supportive, Badass Features
Submit your dating profile and get a personalized video review with no-fluff feedback. We’ll help you rewrite your profile to radiate confidence, clarity, and main character energy—so you attract the right people and repel the wrong ones.
1:1 Video Dating Profile Review
After each date, submit a private check-in to get coaching on your next steps—whether to move forward, set boundaries, or trust your gut. This real-time feedback helps you build self-trust and stop second-guessing, so you can feel confident in your decisions.
1:1 Video Feedback After Every Date
Need support every day? Our Slack community is where the magic happens.
Whether it’s a quick question, a celebratory win, or a moment of doubt, we’re here to guide you through it in real-time. Expect daily check-ins, feedback, and a constant stream of support from a group of fierce, like-minded late bloomers.
Flirting 101 Masterclass
If you're a first-timer or feeling wildly behind, this module is your launchpad.
Overcome shame, fear of rejection, and that “I’m too late” narrative. Learn exactly what to say when asked about your relationship history, how to get past fear of rejection, and how to stop comparing your dating journey to everyone else’s.
The Late Bloomer Lab
If you’ve never been in a healthy romantic relationship, this module will help you attract love that aligns with your values and thrive in it.
Learn how to communicate your needs, set emotional boundaries, pace intimacy, and maintain your self-worth throughout the relationship process
New Relationship Lab
High Touch, Supportive, Badass Features
With these tools, support, and methods, you won’t just date—you’ll create the confident, unapologetic, magnetic love life you deserve.
ALSO INCLUDED:
If you're a first-timer or feeling wildly behind, this module is your launchpad. Overcome shame, fear of rejection, and that “I’m too late” narrative. Learn exactly what to say when asked about your relationship history, how to get past fear of rejection, and how to stop comparing your dating journey to everyone else’s.
The Late Bloomer Lab
If you’ve never been in a healthy romantic relationship, this module will help you attract love that aligns with your values and thrive in it. Learn how to communicate your needs, set emotional boundaries, pace intimacy, and maintain your self-worth throughout the relationship process
New Relationship Lab
After each date, submit a private check-in to get coaching on your next steps—whether to move forward, set boundaries, or trust your gut. This real-time feedback helps you build self-trust and stop second-guessing, so you can feel confident in your decisions.
1:1 Video Feedback After Every Date
Submit your dating profile and get a personalized video review with no-fluff feedback.
We’ll help you rewrite your profile to radiate confidence, clarity, and main character energy—so you attract the right people and repel the wrong ones.
1:1 Video Dating Profile Review
Need support every day? Our Slack community is where the magic happens. Whether it’s a quick question, a celebratory win, or a moment of doubt, we’re here to guide you through it in real-time. Expect daily check-ins, feedback, and a constant stream of support from a group of fierce, like-minded late bloomers.
Flirting 101 Masterclass
Over the past year, our clients experienced a 101.81% increase in their dating joy.
(Yes. We measured it. And we did a happy dance when we saw the number.)
Because when dating is joyful, you’re settle-proof. Burnout-proof. The right relationship becomes inevitable.
This is our promise in Main Character Dating:
You will at least double your dating joy.
And when your joy goes up, so does your clarity. Your self-trust. Your ability to say no with love and yes with certainty.
You’re showing up in your power, with a dating strategy that actually feels fun.
You’re not performing. You’re not second-guessing. You’re not in a situationship spiral.
Attracting better matches because your energy is undeniable.
Shooting your shot with joy, because you’re no longer afraid of getting it “wrong.”
Going on dates where you feel at ease, in charge, and turned on by your own confidence.
Saying “no thanks” with zero guilt and zero spiraling.
Dating joy looks like:
Because joy isn’t a bonus.
It’s the strategy.
Inside this program, we are unapologetically progressive, anti-racist, trans-inclusive, and believe that love is love.
OUR VALUES
Our Feminist AF approach works, no matter your sexuality, relationship style, or level of experience dating.
With our feminist dating approach, you will shed all the patriarchal, heteronormative, rigid dating rules that taught you to shrink and want less.
This works if you want a fulfilling monogamous or polyamorous relationship.
This program works if you’re queer or straight.
This works if you’re a “late bloomer” or just out of a 10 year relationship.
You will learn how to want everything you want boldly and will be so filled with confidence and agency that your love life will be settle-proof.
Inside Main Character Dating, you will learn how to confidently attract the RIGHT partner for you-- one who is excited to build an equitable, sexy, joyful relationship together.
Why Main Character Dating is the Solution You Need
Mainstream dating advice doesn’t work for feminist late bloomers.
We get it: you’ve tried therapy, read the books, and maybe even paid for apps or matchmaking services. But you’re still stuck, frustrated, and unsure how to attract the right people.
You might be thinking, “What if I’m the only one it doesn’t work for? Why spend money on this when my friend didn’t need it?”
This program is designed for you—someone who wants to unapologetically own your desires and attract the relationship you truly deserve. This isn’t about chasing a relationship, it’s about building a joyful, magnetic dating life centered around YOU.
This is your invitation to take yourself off the backburner. Dating matters to your well-being. And the way we do one thing is the way we do everything. You don’t have to keep holding yourself back, letting other priorities dominate.
Clarity, self-trust, and confidence in your dating life—and beyond. You'll stop overthinking, second-guessing, and playing small. Instead, you'll have a clear, actionable plan and the accountability to make it happen.
The return on this investment in this program is immense:
Plus, it’s just 1 hour per week, fitting seamlessly into your busy life.
Investing in Main Character Dating pays off in ways that go beyond just finding love—it’s about becoming the person who creates the joyful, powerful life and relationship you’ve been waiting for.
This is your moment to stop putting your desires on hold.
Here’s what makes this the best dating program for feminist late bloomers:
Main Character Dating is different because it’s specifically designed for feminist late bloomers who are ready to stop shrinking and start attracting the right relationship.
We start by caring for your nervous system with science-backed mindset and somatic tools to clear emotional blocks and reduce dating anxiety.
Then, we help you unlearn harmful dating rules through our feminist dating detox, allowing you to break free from old patterns.
With years of experience as a top matchmaker, you’ll learn my proven strategy for both online and IRL dating that teaches you how to vet dates quickly, flirt confidently, and magnetize the right people.
Plus, with 1:1 dating profile reviews and 1:1 post-date feedback, you’ll learn to trust your instincts and make empowered decisions—so you can attract and thrive in the best relationship of your life.
Unlike mainstream dating advice that tells you to play games, lower your standards, or chase people who aren’t aligned, we focus on empowering you to confidently step into your love life and attract the right partner.
Imagine waking up 30 days after joining us and no longer questioning your worth or doubting that the kind of love you desire is possible.
Stop waiting for the "perfect time" or the "right moment." The time is now.
No more overthinking your relationship history, every match, every text, every decision.
In your first month, you'll shed the fear, shame, and old dating patterns that have been holding you back. You'll start building the confidence to take up space in your dating life—boldly, unapologetically, and without hesitation.
You’ll build friendships with other feminist late bloomers, confident that you’re not alone and that you’ve got this, together.
By the end of 30 days, you’ll feel empowered to put yourself out there—whether it’s flirting IRL, setting clear boundaries, or saying no to what doesn’t align with you. You’ll stop wondering if you're too much, and instead, you'll be the one magnetizing the right people to you.
By saying yes today, you’re choosing to take control, reclaim your dating life, and finally attract the kind of relationship you deserve. Don’t wait for another year to go by while your desires are on the backburner. The sooner you take action, the sooner you’ll start seeing real change—and start attracting the right people who meet you at your level.
Let’s make this the year you believe in your desires and start creating the love life you’ve been craving.
