On today’s show we will be talking about the ONE question that you need to ask yourself to cut out scarcity thinking and define meaningful success in your dating life.

And first, I want to share something personal with you…

I believe that how we do one thing is how we do everything. That dating is inextricably linked to overall well being, and that when structural racism prevents people from being well, that’s my business and our business.

I’ve taken the past two weeks off the podcast in an effort to open up this airtime to a conversation that is more pressing and necessary.

As a white person and a white coach, I know my privilege has played a role in oppression, and I’m committed to personally taking action to educate myself and become anti-racist in everything I and Date Brazen do.

This is long-term, the rest of my life sort of work. If you’re a white listener, I encourage you to get involved with actively becoming anti-racist.

If you’re white, I encourage you follow the recommended resources in this document—> “Anti Racism Resources for White People.” 

And if you’re a Black person listening to this, know that I’m particularly sending you light and love today. If you need support or rest on your journey, here’s a link with a round up of self-care and mental health resources for BIPOC.

This is just the beginning.

HERE’S A BREAKDOWN OF TODAY’S EPISODE:

• Growing up, my loneliness contributed to this story I crafted about myself — I believed that I was too intense, too bossy, too much to find friendship or love. That loneliness followed me into college, which is how I ended up at a paint party in New Orleans freshman year… (a story I share in this episode)

• Scarcity thinking impacts the decisions we make. It can especially impact our dating lives, pushing us into places and situations we know aren’t right for us.

• Ask yourself, what am I holding on to or pushing myself to do because I’m afraid that what I want is too hard to find?

• I’ve seen what can happen when women put the same intentionality into their dating lives that they put into other areas. Transformation is possible.

HERE ARE STEPS YOU CAN TAKE:

First, look at your scarcity thinking. Uncover what is at the root of it and learn to recognize it when it comes up.

Second, submerge yourself in self-compassion. Your feelings here are valid, and they don’t have to dictate your actions.

Third, it’s time to come up with a plan to replace that scarcity thinking with something else that’s more powerful and abundant!

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3 Steps to Date Differently & Find Your Person: Emerge from quarantine with a badass dating action plan.

This masterclass will take you from overwhelmed in the apps, to an awesome dating game plan.

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