Learn how to attract the right partner with a joyful-as-fuck dating life
A 12 month group coaching program for feminist humans
So, you're a feminist badass human.
That's a given.
And you also want to find a feminist, emotionally intelligent, hot partner.
But dating feels like the ONE place that is still "unfigureoutable" and out of alignment with your power and awesomeness.
I've got your back.
How I went from “late bloomer” to the main character who attracted the love of my life
8 years ago, I was a top professional matchmaker, setting up hundreds, and was also in a toxic romantic relationship. I felt completely lost. Shoving my needs into a box. Unsure if more was possible for me.
I looked around for help. My therapist hadn't dated in 30 years, my friends just told me to download another dating app, and I wanted something deeper than a setup. That's when I started looking beneath the surface of my checklist, why I was ok accepting so little, and how my mindset was holding me back from accepting more, this process started transforming my life.
I was my first client.
With this process that now is Main Character Dating, starting feeling confident, joyful, and flirty as hell in my dating life. And ultimately, this process is what attracted my husband, Chris.
After coaching hundreds of women to build dating lives that feel like an act of self-care, I know creating the expansive, joyful, and courage-filled love life you desire (including attracting the right person and BEING in the right relationship) means creating a plan of action in your dating life that feels like coming home.
After joining Main Character Dating, you'll know every single preference, you'll release dating worry as your default, you'll know exactly how to attract the right people for you-- online and in-person, you'll feel peace and confidence in every dating decision you make. And the right relationship will follow.
If…
You’re looking for an emotionally intelligent AND hot partner...
but after years of dating (or after not dating and feeling like a “late bloomer”) you’re doubtful that the relationship you want exists.
You want your love life to be settle-proof and joyful…
but after downloading and deleting dating apps, pushing yourself to try “everything”, dating still feels existentially exhausting and hopeless.
You want to be the main character of your dating life....
but after being told you’re “too picky” and “you’re too much,” after being “the only single friend” in your group, you end up shrinking your needs and feeling like the “best friend” instead.
You want to attract the right dates (and relationship) with ease
but after years of feeling paralyzed to start, or after being in the wrong relationship again and again, self-doubt, self-blame, panic, and have become your dating status quo.
Imagine what it would look like if...
You felt confident AF in yourself, your preferences, and your dating strategy. Even if you've never dated before or if you've just gotten out of the wrong relationship.
You settle-proofed your dating life, blessing and releasing everyone who is wrong with ease and no mind drama.
You felt like the main character of your love life and unabashedly gave yourself permission to want (and have) EVERYTHING you want. No such thing as wanting "too much."
You attracted the best dates of your life with ease. With a flirty in-person dating life and an unbothered online dating life.
The answer to attracting the RIGHT partner is centering yourself + building a joyful AF dating life.
Regular Dating
You overthink and doubt every dating decision you make, drenched in fear and scarcity and you attract mediocre dates or emotionally unavailable people again and again.
You feel like a total “Late Bloomer” and worry that something is “wrong with you” for not having found love yet.
You stay with the wrong people way too long, doubting what you want and afraid of making a mistake letting go of someone.
You’re the only single person in your friend group, and you feel really lonely and weird for still being single.
Main Character Dating
You are confident in your preferences and every dating decision you make and strategy of a badass main character– you shoot your shot, ask for what you want, and attract joyful dates with ease– online and IRL.
You are surrounded by a coven of cheerleaders who validate you, celebrate you, and do courageous shit with you.
You bless and release the wrong people with ease and without mind drama.
You attract the RIGHT joyful, aligned dates and relationships with ease.
INTRODUCING
MAIN CHARACTER DATING
Learn how to attract the right partner with a joyful-as-fuck dating life
A 12 month group coaching program for feminist humans
In this program, you will...RELEASE YOUR DUSTY RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS
Whether you identify as a "late bloomer" and have been shrinking from dating. Or you've just gotten out of the wrong relationship and are done with settling...
After this, you will no longer shrink from what you want, put up with shit from the wrong people, or blame yourself for being a human with desires.
CLAIM EVERYTHING YOU WANT WITHOUT APOLOGY
You will rewrite your love story as the main character. Knowing all your Essence-Based Preferences means that you'll be confident in everything you want and will attract the right, feminist AF people for you.
CREATE A MAGNETIC DATING STRATEGY
With this intentional in-person dating plan, you'll feel confident to unabashedly flirt IRL, you'll ask cuties out often, and joy building will be your norm.
With such a badass in-person plan, you'll have an unbothered online dating life with a joyful AF dating app strategy.
NEVER GO ON A BAD DATE AGAIN
With our Qualifying and Disqualifying questions strategy, you'll know exactly how to vet potential dates based on your Essence-Based Preferences quickly.
So you never waste a Saturday night (or months in the wrong relationship) again.
MAKE THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIP INEVITABLE
Because of this joyful AF dating strategy, you will attract better dates than you thought possible, bless and release the wrong people without mind drama, and will attract a feminist partner who is excited to build a life with you.
All of this means you'll know not only attract, but BE in the best relationship of your life.
Here's what a joyful AF dating life looks like
“I met a partner who has become such an integral part of my life.
My dating life is like night and day.
He’s serious about maintaining a healthy relationship, communicates well, and treats me like a queen. Now I know that I deserve nothing less for my life.”
Maya
“I broke a 15 year pattern of settling and am now going on the best dates of my life.”
"I joined this program because, even though I’d done so much work on the rest of my life, dating was the one place I didn’t feel supported. After this work, I’m now pursuing my joy differently, asking for what I want directly, setting bold boundaries that protect my heart time. I now have amazing, new single friends from this container and a juicy, joyful, in-person dating life that I know will lead to the right people for me."
Chloé
Main Character Dating Framework
This process has helped over 300 members build a joyful-as-fuck dating life that makes the right relationship inevitable.
With quick, captioned videos, transcripts, and fillable workbooks, you’ll get results in one hour per week.
The Modules
Calm Your Freakout (aka Caring for Your Nervous System)
You’ll learn a scientifically proven framework to decrease stress and increase resilience– two things that will help you become unstoppable and meet the right partner faster inside Main Character Dating.
The Complete Dating Detox
Release dating scarcity and heal dating burnout for good. This proven detox makes clients become a magnet for easeful dates.
Illuminate Deeper Preferences
Whether you’ve never been in a relationship or just got out of one, this module will help you claim EVERYTHING you want, vet people within 5 minutes, so you become settle-proof.
Create Your Joyful AF Dating Strategy
You’ll learn our unconventional, bespoke strategy to meet dates IRL and online to become a magnet to the right people for you.
Reignite Your Dating Life (aka Start Dating!)
Learn how to attract the right dates to you with ease, Bless and Release the wrong people without mind drama, create a rock solid dating intuition, and build hope every day with our Thank You, More Please Challenge.
OUR HIGH TOUCH, SUPPORTIVE, BADASS FEATURES
Magnetic Dating Profile ReviewWe have a personalized JOYFUL AF Dating Profile Review feature, where you submit your profile and get a personalized video back with feedback on how to make the profile totally magnetic with your main character energy– so it attracts the right people and disqualifies the rest.
Unbothered dating app strategy means you will be the bossy, glamorous CEO of the dating app.
WTF to Say Next Guide Text scripts for everything overwhelming in your dating life to make things easy for you. From blessing and releasing to asking someone out, I’ve got a script for it so you stop overthinking and move forward boldly toward the right relationship.
Post Date ReviewAfter every date you go on, you can fill out your date feedback and get coaching on how to make EVERY date better than the last. Ditch overthinking, we’ll help you build self-trust, bold action, and a magnetic strategy.
With this feature, you’ll make every date better than the last OR know how to take it to the next level with the person you’re dating.
It will ensure that any relationship you attract will be the RIGHT one for you.
BONUS MODULE!!
THE LATE BLOOMER LAB
If you’ve never been in a relationship before, never been kissed, never been on a date, this module will catch you up so you can step into the most confident love life.
In this bonus Module, you'll learn:
Exactly what to say when someone asks about your relationship history (and how to respond with confidence)
How to overcome the fear of rejection and embarrassment to start dating
Flirting 101: How to know if someone’s REALLY into you, how to respond, and even ask someone out like a badass.
This bonus module will DISSOLVE your "late bloomer" "I'm behind!" anxiety so you can propel yourself toward the right relationship inside Main Character Dating.
What Main Character Dating feels like...“I now feel in control.”
"Before, I felt like it was my fault that I was single. I Identified as a long-time single lady.
That was a core part of my identity. I didn't really start dating until I was about 30.
After this program, having the permission and the framework of this program helped me build the belief that I actually take good care of myself. I make good decisions about things! I now feel in control, like I can pursue what I want to pursue.”
- Anna
“I now only attract the highest quality people for me.”
This process made me center myself. And living in a patriarchal society, being a woman of color and an immigrant, I'm so not used to my needs being the thing that moves the train.
After this program, I'm not wasting my time anymore. I'm not making excuses for people who are not right for me.
The specificity of my profile, questions, and dating life in general mean that I now only attract the highest quality people for me. Which has led to the best dates of my life."
- S
“I felt like a ‘late bloomer,’ and now I’m confidently dating.”
"As one of the only single friends and as a queer woman, it all felt so lonely and hopeless. I was stuck not taking any action.
And now, I’m confidently dating and feeling supported in my love life. I’ve made close, single friends in the program, and now we go on travel adventures together!
The growth that I've seen in myself and the way that it's changed who I am and all aspects of my life has been totally worth it.
Now I take action and trust I'll get exactly where I want to go in my love life.”
- Ava
“I’m in a full-blown relationship!!”
“It's been fun, safe, exciting, cozy, intense, boundaried, and joyous. He surprised me this morning by showing up at my door at 7am with my favorite bagel order so... I'm pretty into it. I've surprised myself at so many moments with how I've shown up so far - So much more open, vulnerable, affectionate, communicative, and clear on my needs and wants than I've ever been before.
It's felt really freeing and made me more secure in the foundation I'm hopefully starting to build with this person. I wouldn't have gotten here without this work. Working with Lily was truly like prepping in the off season for what was to come. Who knew? The answer is: you did. Thank you thank you thank you." 💜
- Erica
Main Character Dating will give you the exact frameworks, coaching, and community to attract the right partner with a joyful AF dating life as a feminist badass.
Take a tour of our On-Demand Portal
Main Character Dating is for you if…
If you just got out of a long term relationship, this will work for you.
Here’s Maddie’s story ↓
Just out of a 4 year relationship, she had a ton of anxiety about dating and if it was “too soon” to work on her love life.
But she didn’t know how to date and had a ton of anxiety, perfectionism, and fear. And she never wanted to settle again.
“I attracted Jim, my now-husband, with this program."
In Main Character Dating, I became READY to attract the right partner with clear preferences, vetting strategy, and mindset. It was shocking how great this process was. I had the tools. I had the process. I had the confidence and self-compassion.”
What I wanted did exist, and now I'm dating him! He's really the essence of everything I was looking for.
If you feel like a “late bloomer” in your dating life, this will work for you.
Here’s Liz’s story ↓
"Dating was hard. I pushed my feelings and desires down so far I couldn't get to them.
I was in a cycle of disappointment that felt very tiring and wasn't getting me anywhere.”
Through this process, I actually realized I had long repressed that I was gay.
I really felt I had so much support through the weekly group meetings and the incredible action plan.
I got on Hinge, really leaned into what I needed, and then began dating Lynn June 2023!”
If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, this will work for you.
Here’s Mishi’s story ↓
Mishi was stuck in a vicious cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable men, again and again. Dating was the one place she didn’t feel successful.
“Taking the time to figure out my essence-based preferences was life changing for me. I met someone halfway through the program, and this man keeps doing my dishes and making my bed when I’m not looking!
This program helped me figure out and claim everything I desired in a partner, and naming what I desired really did help me find it.
Here’s Julianne’s story ↓
Dating was a vicious cycle of false starts, dashed hopes, and fear that what she wanted didn’t exist.
“This program helped me manage my feelings of hopelessness in dating so that even when things felt bleak, I was able to care for myself but still honor my desire for a relationship by putting myself out there.
What I wanted did exist, and now I'm dating him! He's really the essence of everything I was looking for.
If you have been dating for 15 years without success, this will work for you.
Our Feminist AF approach works, no matter your sexuality, relationship style, or level of experience dating.
This program works if you’re queer or straight.
This works if you’re a “late bloomer” or just out of a 10 year relationship.
This works if you want a fulfilling monogamous or polyamorous relationship.
Inside this program, we are unapologetically progressive, anti-racist, trans-inclusive, and believe that love is love.
You will learn how to want everything you want boldly and will be so filled with confidence and agency that your love life will be settle-proof.
Inside Main Character Dating, you will learn how to confidently attract the RIGHT partner for you-- one who is excited to build an equitable, sexy, joyful relationship together.
What’s included
12-MONTH ACCESS TO THE MAIN CHARACTER DATING COURSE
A proven, step-by-step, feminist framework that has helped hundreds create joyful-as-fuck dating lives that lead to love.
12 MONTHS OF GROUP COACHING CALLS, 3X PER MONTH.
Get personalized coaching and get unstuck in minutes just by showing up.
12 MONTHS OF DAILY COACHING IN SLACK
Come to our Slack Channel to get coaching, community, and celebration. Every day.
LIVE CALL REPLAYS + PRIVATE PODCAST
Listen to the past 2 years of coaching calls to get extra support on ANY dating question or problem.
PRE AND POST DATE MEDITATIONS
Step into every date feeling like a badass with these exclusive meditations
WTF TO SAY NEXT GUIDE
Scripts for every dating scenario so you never are at a loss for words again.
DATING PROFILE REVIEW AND POST DATE REVIEW
Video coaching feedback so you can have success with every date you go on.
THE LATE BLOOMER LAB
Dissolve any “late bloomer” anxiety and step into confidence with this bonus module
Main Character Dating Brags
Here’s what Main Character Dating will look and feel like: You take up space with your desires. You know what you want and ask for it with confidence.
Your dating life is finally in alignment with the rest of your badass life.
You trust the shit out of every dating decision you make, whether to Bless and Release or build a new, awesome relationship.
You set powerful boundaries often, and your time is no longer swallowed up with dating worry and swiping anxiety.
You have a group of new single besties who encourage you, celebrate you, and attract love with main character energy, together.
I want to help you find the best relationship of your life…
Not just any dusty, crusty relationship.
Your dating life deserves your attention.
Not because you are broken (you're not).
But because your desires matters to your well-being.
You deserve a clear path to attracting love as the badass feminist you are.
And that's what you'll get inside Main Character Dating.
The Investment
All those that register and join Main Character Dating within 48 hours get this extra special bonus:
What to Say Role Play: Live Workshop for Late Bloomers who want to be Fearless
Whether you’ve never been on a date, never been in a relationship, or you just feel plain behind, this workshop will teach you how to get over your embarrassment and fear, start dating, and find love as quickly as possible so you can get the fastest results inside Main Character Dating.
Inside this hour-long training with me, I’m teaching the skills, the scripts, the strategy you need to step into an epic Main Character Dating life.
What You'll Learn:
How to answer ANY question:
Based on your relationship history, I’ll give you a custom script on how to answer ANY questions you’re nervous to answer about your love life history. And we’ll role play so you’re READY!
Flirting Role Play:
How to know if someone’s REALLY into you, how to respond, and even ask someone out like a badass– We'll practice so you're READY!
So you can propel yourself toward the right relationship inside Main Character Dating.
This live bonus training will address and dissolve your SPECIFIC late bloomer anxieties with a proven, customized plan of action.
It’s time to start your Main Character Dating journey!
Dating without Main Character Dating
Going through the exhausting same download/delete cycle with dating apps
You are stuck in Tiktok/IG feeds and friend convos filled with “dating is trash, men/women/people are trash,” and finding love feels hopeless.
You compare yourself to your friends in relationships all the time, feeling behind and “too late”.
You worry you’re being “too picky,” or that “you’re the problem” in your dating life.
You’re the “only single friend” in your group, your coupled friends don’t get your dating struggle and give you advice like “it happens when you least expect it.”
Dating with Main Character Dating
You attract the best dates of your life online and IRL with a joyful, unique action plan
You see evidence every day that what you want is possible because of your Essence Based Preferences and Thank You More Please Challenges. You feel authentically hopeful about your love life.
You are the main character of your love life– taking up all the space with your desires. You know you’re right on time for your love story.
Your preferences and vetting strategy are so strong that you ONLY attract the right dates and never go on a mediocre date again.
You have a new community of single badasses and a team of expert coaches encouraging you to get pickier, and a room full of single badasses who have your back.
All your hot questions (and my answers)
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First of all, it makes sense why you’d have this question. In our patriarchal society, we are constantly told that we "should be working harder, pushing more, figuring it out ALL on our own."
Gorgeous friend, if you desire support and guidance on your dating journey from an expert like me, then the real question is: How supported can you stand to let yourself be?
After coaching hundreds, I can say with certainty that there’s nothing “normal” about us. We are fierce, successful, unapologetic, complicated, and beautifully “too much.” If you resonate with this, I hope you'll join us in Main Character Dating.
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Nope. This program is for femmes, women, and people who resonate with our feminist, unconventional, self-trusting Main Character Dating method of dating.
If you share these values, you are welcome here.
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We are working hard to make sure this experience is accessible to all who feel led to join us. As such, all of the course videos contain captions and transcripts.
Most of our video lessons are less than 10 minutes long.
If you have a specific need requirement that isn't met by our current course, please reach out to support@datebrazen.com. We'd love to hear from you to improve this experience for all.
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All you need is 1 hour per week to get results inside Main Character Dating.
That’s it.
Most Main Character Dating clients have busy schedules– we have teachers, single moms, clerks for federal judges, surgeons, and entrepreneurs– All members are the most badass of people who have packed schedules.
They joined because their desire for the love life of their dreams was greater than their fear of “being too busy.”
And if you say “My schedule is too hectic!” then I would bet that you’re not prioritizing yourself enough in your calendar.
Or you’re assuming that dating has to be a soul-sucking part-time job.
Your desire for the right relationship deserves your attention, investment, and action. So, stop using your calendar as an excuse not to take action with a proven plan.
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If you don’t want a romantic relationship– this program will help you build a joyful as fuck love life on your terms– full of fun dates aligned with your desires, boundaries that make you the main character of your LIFE, and friendships that change the trajectory of your year.
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I’m queer. And there are also many queer Main Character Dating members.
This space was built differently from the patriarchal, heteronormative, “conventional” dating standard.
Inside Main Character Dating, you will be supported in claiming EXACTLY what and who you desire, and attracting them with ease.
So, how do we create a brave coaching space for everyone (queer folks especially) inside?
✨Our Community Guidelines✨
We adhere strictly to our 10 community guidelines, including:→ We use inclusive language and introduce ourselves with our gender pronouns in every group coaching call and in Slack.
→ We reject heteronormative cultural expectations. Including, but not limited to: assuming the gender identity of someone you’re dating, assuming you want monogamy, etc.
→ We value many paths AND we do not tolerate homophobia, transphobia, racism of any kind. Instances of this behavior will result in a dismissal from Main Character Dating.
Inside this program, we are serious about creating an environment where the experience of the folks who hold marginalized identities is prioritized.No matter who you love, this program will help you create a dating life that is confident, joyful-as-fuck, and that makes the right relationship inevitable.
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Members inside Main Character Dating right now range in age from 25 to 63.
If you think you’re too old, you’re not.
If you think you’re too young, you’re not.
The thought that you’re “too old/too young” is just keeping you stuck from actually getting what you want as soon as possible.
After coaching literally hundreds of people through Main Character Dating over the last 7 years, I can tell you that EVERY client is struggling with one of these two core issues:
Either:
You consider yourself a “late bloomer” and don’t know where to start.
OR
You’ve been in the wrong relationship(s) and never want to settle again…
SO I’ve designed every lesson, workbook, and coaching session to help you easefully overcome these struggle points so you can feel confident as hell in what you want and how to find it.
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With the strategy we teach inside Main Character Dating, you will attract the kind of feminist, emotionally intelligent human that you didn’t know existed.
How?💎 With our Essence Based Preferences strategy where you'll own EVERYTHING you want.
🔥 Then with our step-by-step Thank You More Please Challenge where I will coach you on exactly how to gather evidence that the right person exists for YOU. Every single day.
Those action steps, that courage, PLUS the in person dating plan alone will help you attract more than you thought possible.
WHAT YOU WANT EXISTS AND IS FOR YOU.
And with these new beliefs and action steps, the bonus is that you become a magnet for the best dates of your life. (Even if you've NEVER seen that what you want exists.)
If you’re skeptical about investing in your love life again (or for the first time), know this:
You've never been in THIS program before.
You've never been coached by me before.
You've never had feminist curriculum like this one before.
You’ve never made courageous changes and taken messy, massive action like we do in this room.
You've never experienced the support of the other badass feminist humans in this room.
I’ve had a client recently say that they invested in a manifestation course, coaching, therapy and that NOTHING has helped her dating life like Main Character Dating.
This shit works, even if nothing else has.
Let’s do this.
"Because of this program, I broke a 15 year pattern of settling and am now going on the best dates of my life."
I joined Main Character Dating because, even though I’d done so much work on the rest of my life, dating was the one place I didn’t feel supported.
After this program, I’m now pursuing my joy differently, asking for what I want directly, setting bold boundaries that protect my heart time. I now have amazing, new single friends from this container and a juicy, joyful, in-person dating life that I know will lead to the right people for me.”
- Chloé
“Before Main Character Dating, my dating life was unfulfilling, and I was settling
I joined Main Character Dating because I realized what I was doing for eons wasn't working.
After joining, I have prioritized myself and not settled.
This work has gone way beyond dating, I have even picked up my life to a whole part of the world!
I now live in a different country, I prioritize myself in dating (and everywhere), and my self confidence has gone way up.
This has led to me feeling free in my love life and life in general.”
- Steph
“Lily is the reason I’m in the best relationship of my life with my now-husband.
Before working with her, I was going on dates from the apps and not really connecting with people.
While working with Lily, I realized I was looking way too closely at the pictures and didn’t give guys a chance.
The advice she gave me was the reason I went on a date I otherwise wouldn’t have gone on, and it opened me up to this relationship.”
- Olivia, NYC
“The biggest breakthrough I got early on is if I want something, I need to ask for it; it's so EMPOWERING! I met my current boyfriend at the very beginning of our program. Lily was my guide and helped me grow my relationship stronger.”
- Rourou