
Hey, I’m Lily.
An unconventional dating coach dedicated to helping you build a clear path to the best relationship of your life.
I’m Lily, and I want to help you build a clear path to the best relationship of your life.
When I was a top matchmaker at the largest firm in the U.S., I got to know the dating industry really well. And after matching hundreds, I realized that with coaching, women can match themselves better than anyone else ever could.
I now get to help hundreds of women around the world build fulfilling, joyful and successful dating lives, becoming their own expert matchmakers along the way.

As a feminist, Alabama born, New Yorker, I’m proud to have created a company that is helping peaople claim the extraordinary love they deserve.
Through The Date Brazen Podcast and our coaching experience, The Brazen Breakthrough, I help people around the world transform their dating lives from a soul-suck, to an act of self-care.
You might be thinking, “How in the hell did she get started in this?”
From the time I could speak, I was sensitive, loud, opinionated, enthusiastic. And subsequently was labeled “too much” by many.
In a world where women are told to be small, take up less space, I reaaaly didn’t fit in. That “too much” label stuck to me like an old “hello my name is” nametag.
I was also raised around people who measured women’s value on whether or not they were married. (then and now, I don’t believe that romantic relationship is the gold-standard of existence).
The wellbeing of women has always been my heart and my purpose, from starting a nonprofit to end sex trafficking in Alabama, to working for an international women’s right’s organization. I never thought I’d be in the dating world, until during one fateful career change, I randomly ended up as a matchmaker at a national firm.
I quickly realized that the dating world was a way I could help women be well and rise. Because from my own story and from the stories of hundreds of clients, it was clear that dating was a microcosm of every fear, hope, insecurity that we have in this life. It really matters to our overall well being.
After setting up 499 dates, I became one of the most successful matchmakers out of 160 around the country. #highfives. But something wasn’t right…
I was in a toxic relationship with someone I met on Bumble.
He was everything I said I wanted on my checklist, and still I felt numb. I was accepting so little love and didn’t know why or how I could find something better for myself.
I remember crying on the floor of his apartment, and 15 minutes later taking a matchmaking call telling a client “You deserve so much better!”
Talk about a disconnect.
At this reckoning point, I knew something had to change. But where could I get help to find the relationship I ACTUALLY wanted? How could I gain the confidence to show up for myself and my dating life like the bold woman I was yearning to be?
I looked at matchmaking for help, but after years at this matchmaking firm, I saw a disappointing truth: That it only works for a small percentage of clients. The majority of matchmaking clients were walking away even more frustrated and unsure how to find what they wanted than when they came in.
I looked to my friends for help, and all they knew to say was “Play the numbers game! Let me swipe for you!” (love my friends, but their dating advice was like the blind leading the blind).
And I asked my therapist for dating help, and she didn’t know what to tell me (bless her never-been-on-a-dating-app-heart).
Then, I started to create my own solution. I realized that to find the sort of love I wanted, the kind of love my clients wanted, we needed to embrace our “too much.”
I began to explore beneath the surface of my checklist, to uncover what it is I actually wanted.
I saw clearly that I need to heal from my self-limiting beliefs, define my deeper preferences and craft a dating strategy based on what I uniquely needed. And that I’d need to be bold as hell in the pursuit of this extraordinary love.
I now call this work date coaching.
The results spoke for themselves: When I date coached my matchmaking clients on the sly, they started to find better dates for themselves than I or anyone could find for them. On a dating app, in the Sweet Green line, on the subway. (yes, really)
And for me, this work meant that I was able to break up with that toxic relationship, love being single for a while, and it was the reason that I was able to recognize and accept the love of my life partner, Chris (who was not on my old “checklist”).
I broke up with matchmaking to build Date Brazen three years ago. And now I get to help women around the world build a clear path to the best relationship of their lives with unconventional, feminist-leaning coaching experiences. Becoming their own expert matchmakers along the way.
What does success look like? If you end up in a relationship because of our work together (as many of my clients do), that’s awesome.
My desired success for you looks like how confident you are in exactly who you are, how you trust yourself to qualify the right dates and disqualify the wrong ones and how to you set boundaries and stick to them.
If you feel led to join me, I’ll give you the tools to transform your whole life, starting with finding the love you desire.
You ready? Let’s go