Ever catch yourself thinking: “Am I doing enough to find love?”

That question sounds productive—but it’s usually fear in disguise.

Fear that time’s running out.

Fear that what you want might never happen.

In this week’s episode of The Late Bloomer Show, I walk you through the 10-step “Am I Doing Enough?” checklist—the one I give my clients when they start to spiral.

You’ll learn how to:

💗 Practice self-compassion (so you stop hustling for worthiness)

🎯 Create your Essence-Based Preferences

💎 Bring in community and support

🎉 Celebrate yourself like it’s part of the plan—because it is

You don’t need to “just try harder” in your dating life.

You need an effective plan that prioritizes your self-trust along the way.

Work with Lily:

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

→ Learn more about Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/dating

→ Learn how to work with Lily: datebrazen.com

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Show transcript:

Episode Spotlight Am I doing enough to find love Checklist (00:00)
Hello, gorgeous friends. I am so excited for today’s episode because we are getting into the nuts and bolts of are you doing enough in your dating life to attract extraordinary love, to make the right relationship inevitable? And with that, let’s get into the episode. Hey, I’m Lily Womble, former top matchmaker, turn feminist dating coach, and founder of Date Brazen. I was a late bloomer. I know how isolating that can feel. And with the tools I now teach, I built a joyful, epic love life.

Since then, I’ve coached over 400 late bloomers to own what they want and attract it with confidence. And now it’s your turn. In a world that’s told you you’re too late, too much, or not enough, this show will help you settle-proof your love life, celebrate who you are, and help you attract more than you thought possible. Because it’s not too late, and this is just the beginning. This is the Late Bloomers Show.

First, I want to share a review from a gorgeous listener of the podcast. They give five stars, and the title is I Feel Seen from Yada Yada One Two Three Four. Thank you. I am listening to How to Meet in Person. I believe that is episode 89 How the Hell to Meet Someone in Person. They I’m listening to the episode on how to meet in person, and you have my attention. Actionable steps, realistic expectations, clearly laid out. You’re in my head.

Gonna add this to my podcast rotation. Yes, yes, yes. I love this review. Please, if you’ve been enjoying the podcast, it would mean so much to me to have a review on Apple Podcasts, a five-star review at that, because we are in this creating a joyful as fuck dating life, a confident as fuck dating life for you that makes the right relationship inevitable. We’re in it together. And I love, love, love getting all of those DMs from y’all saying the podcast.

Has led me to the best date of my life, the best relationship of my life, the best boundaries of my life. it makes me so, so happy. So please review so that uh I can shout you out in the next episode. And with that, let’s get into it. This episode was inspired by a client of mine. She asked in our Slack channel, we have daily Slack coaching, like, okay, Lily, I just wanna make sure that I’m doing enough. I wanna make sure that I am putting

everything I have into meeting the love of my life while not burning myself out. So like what do I do? And uh y’all, if you listen to me, you know I had to go deeper than the like the surface level of that question. And I also created a checklist for her to make sure that she was doing enough. So I’m gonna give you both the deeper under the surface coaching answer that uh this question deserves

And I’m also gonna give you the literal step-by-step checklist. So, first, let’s talk about the coaching aspect of this question. Because this gorgeous client is doing so much hard work. They are showing up to our group coaching calls. They are asking questions on the Slack channel. They are doing the lessons in a self-trusting pace in our member portal. And underneath this question,

I could intuit, like I could feel the energy that she was a little bit anxious. I could feel the energy of like, just tell me that I’m doing enough. So I don’t, you know, that I’m always thinking about like what’s between the lines and what’s the second part of that sentence that you’re not saying. So if you have a question about your dating life, like, why isn’t it working? Or what is wrong with me that I can’t, blah, blah, blah. Like, all like be a loving witness to your brain, having those questions.

Pay attention to the feeling in your body as you ask yourself those questions about your dating life. And then fill in the rest of the sentence, right? Because the rest of the sentence for this client is Am I doing enough in my dating life? Because if I’m not, then I’m wasting my time. Or if I’m not doing enough, then I need to hurry up because time is wasting. If that hits home for you, if you have a deeper fear that you are wasting time and that

Mm, you know, maybe the logical end of that sentence in your brain right now is because there is not enough time or because what I want is not gonna happen. I need to prepare for the worst, uh, but I need to girt up to make as much effort as possible so that I don’t regret not right. Like just pay attention to your own brain. Be onto your own brain in this way, especially in your dating life. So many single people that I work with come into working with me and they say, I just want the strategy.

Or I just want, I I just want the step by step. Give me the step-by-step. And I say, great, just like this episode, I’m gonna give you the step by step. I have a great checklist for you. I have a great action plan for you. Both and if you are not practicing feeling your feelings, if you are not practicing self-compassion, if you are not treating yourself like you would your best friend in your dating life, if you are swimming in self-doubt, self-blame.

And shame, and you’re not addressing that first, then doing those action steps in your dating life is not going to get you into the best relationship of your life. I say that. That’s a really spicy take because I say that because people you could get in a relationship. You could meet a great person who you end up with. I don’t care about you getting into a relationship. I care about you knowing how to get into the best relationship of your life, which begins with how you treat yourself in your own brain.

There are so many people. There are probably people in your life who you love who you can think of right now who are in a relationship. And maybe that relationship with that person is joyful and healthy. And you probably also know people who are tortured in their own brain by anxiety, by self-doubt, by sh feelings of shame. That’s why this work is for everyone. Like I think everyone, whether you’re single or coupled, needs to do this work of.

Feeling your feelings of emotional granularity, noticing like what are the feelings? Not just I’m sad, but I’m feeling dejected or dismayed or I’m feeling despair. The emotional granularity is a is a tool coined by Lisa, Dr. Lisa Feldman-Barrett. And it’s one this tool, emotional granularity, is one of the tools that I teach. Because if you aren’t

capable of naming your feelings as they’re happening. And then after you name them, if you’re not capable of going soft with them, practicing self-compassion around them, giving yourself the most real and loving, of course I’m struggling. Of course I’m I’m hurting. This is so hard and I’m not alone. If you’re not practiced at that, then you will continue to feel miserable. And another piece, another spicy take, and this is me fully going off the rails of my s my uh outline, of course, as I

And want to do. The other piece of this is that when you don’t yet have the tools to to practice self-compassion, to notice your feelings with emotional granularity, to then feel your feelings effectively, not just swim in them, but really process them. Uh, when you are swimming in those things without the right tools, it can uh perpetuate the feeling of isolation, especially in your dating life.

The more you feel isolated in your dating life, the more you are your body is used to that sensation. And I have seen again and again from my own story and from my clients’ stories that the more you feel isolated and the more you perpetuate your own isolation by not reaching out for support or not learning new tools to get yourself out of that muck, the more you will make decisions that perpetuate the feeling of isolation because it’s normal, it’s stasis.

And your body and your brain want to be in their comfort zone. So then I see people, because they don’t have the those skills, perpetuating their own isolation by settling, by choosing people that f the with whom they feel isolated. Does that make sense? Like I in my own story, when I was dating and I was like swimming in shame because of an underlying belief that I had from years of hard

hard experiences and some trauma and patriarchal socialization. I had this belief that I was too much, too much for love and belonging, too much for deep friendship, too bossy, too intense, too sensitive. And because that story was running rampant in my brain and I didn’t have the tools to check that story or practice self-compassion or feel my feelings or even hell notice what those feelings were in my body. I was just trying to run away from them. I was trying to

run away from that story instead of like looking at it and dealing with it and caring for myself through it. Because I was swimming in that story without these tools, I ended up choosing a partner and partners, right? Like I dated some and had some casual relationships in which none of my needs were met. And I thought that was normal. And I also thought it was normal that I would be rejected by those people because I was too much in my own brain to myself.

And then when I was swiping at one of my side hustle jobs earlier in my time in New York, like seven, eight years ago, I saw a guy, I thought he was cute, I said yes, and we went on a date and it felt good in a sense because I was receiving attention, I was receiving some affection, he was really into me. I thought check, check, check.

That’s good enough. Opportunities are scarce, so I better scoop this one up. And I fell in love with this person and and we ended up building a really, really toxic relationship together in which none of my needs were met, his needs weren’t being met, like it was a hot soup of bad. And I felt isolated and that felt normal.

And that’s why that relationship lasted way longer than it needed to, because I was perpetuating my own cycle of isolation and too-muchness. And it wasn’t until learning these skills of self-compassion, of feeling your feelings, of how to feel anything with emotional granularity that I was able to actually heal the too-much story and come into a place of belonging to myself. I was really inspired at the time years ago by Brene Brown’s book.

Braving the wilderness and the concept of belonging to oneself. And I highly recommend that book if you haven’t read it already. And so this process allowed me to belong to myself, allowed me to build the courage with my therapist as well, to break up with this person, to be single for a while, to start dating, to start cultivating these tools that I now teach in Date Brazen Land, that I now teach to you in this podcast. And then that work led me to being open to Chris.

Who was somebody that came into my life through the process of building my joy, building my connections? We were introduced through a friend of a friend, or actually we had mutual friends. Um, and so that opportunity came, I believe, because I was really allowing myself to want what I wanted.

I was giving myself permission to want what I wanted. I was giving myself permission to feel big feelings and have big feelings and be sensitive and be like reclaiming the too much and and believing the thought, if I’m too much if for you, then you’re not enough for me. Again, let me say it again. If I’m too much for you, then you’re not enough for me. That became the baseline. Imperfectly, I was not always perfect at these things. And

it led to not only meeting this amazing person, being open to this r new relationship with my now husband, it led to me feeling like I could care for myself and my own emotional landscape without labeling myself as too much. It meant that I could ask for support when I needed it instead of labeling myself as too much and perpetuating my own isolation. So that’s why I think it’s important to this simple question, am I doing enough? You gotta look beneath the surface.

Like what is happening in your body, in your brain that you want the answer to that question? Answer that for yourself and give yourself a heaping dose of self-compassion. Um, you are probably sick of hearing me say the words self-compassion in this episode. And it is the one tool that has changed my life in the last six years, like above most everything else. Like self-compassion has completely changed my relationship to myself, my relationship to my work, and the way that my clients then get results faster.

Because of that tool. So now that we’ve done the coachy coach, now that we’ve done the deeper answer, I wanna give you the checklist piece. I’m all about them both and you know I’m type A as hell. So I wanna give you a checklist that helps you specifically know whether or not you’re doing quote enough. And if you listen to the first part of this episode, you know that the concept of enough will change for person to person, will change based on what you’ve got going on and

What you have capacity for, right? There is no universal enough. It is based on what you need and how you want to show up in your dating life. So, as always, with these episodes, take what you need and leave the rest. Let’s get into the ultra special checklist for am I doing enough in my dating life? Are you ready? I want you to have your notes app open.

I want you to re-listen to this episode, grab a pen, grab a piece of paper, and get ready. You can also go to the show notes at datebrazen.com/slash podcast to print this checklist out. Number one, am I practicing self-compassion? Am I going soft with myself? So I want self- self-compassion is the most tactical tool in your dating life arsenal. Self-compassion.

needs to be like brushing your teeth. Hopefully you’re brushing your teeth twice a day. Hopefully you’re flossing once a day. I mean, I I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but that’s the way that that’s the way that our teeth remain healthy. Self-compassion needs to be a skill that you practice like brushing your teeth. And you once you brush your teeth a lot, it does no it no longer becomes like a skill. It just becomes second nature. Right? So, I mean it’s a skill and it’s second nature after a while. So

How do you practice self-compassion? Well, to learn the skill of self-compassion, go to the experts. So I am a student of self-compassion and I teach what I have seen work specifically for people’s dating lives. And if you want to go to like the research source, then self-compassion.org is a great place to start. Dr. Kristen Neff is a leading expert on self-compassion, and she has a full breakdown of self-compassion, what it is, what it isn’t.

She also has free meditations that you can do. I regularly do self-compassion meditations with Dr. Kristen Neff on our website, like five minutes here and there really, really helps me. I also have gotten really into tapping EFT emotional freedom technique. And if you haven’t done it yet, I was resistant to it and I was a little skeptical. And then I started doing it and it felt so good. So I just kept doing it. So if you go to YouTube, YouTube Brad Yates.

self-compassion tapping, you can do like a free meditation on YouTube for self-compassion. This is about building the vocabulary of what self-cuss compassion is and what it can sound like for you. Self-compassion is three things. Number one, giving yourself the kindness that you would give a close friend. Number two, mindfulness over over-identification. So saying, wow, I’m having a hard thought right now. That’s really hard. It’s not a fact. Mindfulness. Number three,

Common humanity over isolation. So this is the piece where you like normalize your own belonging and get out of isolation saying, I’m not alone. I’m not the only person who feels this way. How can I get support from my community? Those three things are self-compassion. Are you practicing self-compassion? If somebody comes to me in their dating life and they’re like, my God, it feels miserable. It feels like hell. I’m like, okay, learn the skill of self-compassion. Let me teach you how. It is so, so important. That’s why it’s number one on the checklist. So go learn how to do it.

Period. Number two, have I created my essence-based preferences? Have I created my EBPs? Now you can go to episode 135 of the podcast if you haven’t already to do your EBPs, to do your essence-based preferences. These are beneath the surface of your checklist, like beneath the surface of the surface of kind, funny, smart. What do you want? What does it look like? What does it feel like?

What does it feel like to be in their presence? What values? What personality traits do they have? Why do you want those things? What is your living, breathing definition? Because underneath the surface, everybody has distinctive essence-based preferences. When I hear people say everybody wants the same thing, I’m like, you obviously haven’t done your essence-based preferences because everybody’s preferences are so unique. And when you know your unique EBPs, you are more likely to find what

You want, you are less likely to settle because you have the vocabulary to describe what it is that would make you come alive across the table. Number three, have I chosen my co-conspirator? This is so exciting that you get to do this step if you haven’t already. Episode 131 of the podcast teaches you in detail how to help your coupled friends help you, or how to help your friends help you, whether or not they’re coupled.

Co-conspirator is this concept that I created around how to do in-person dating without relying solely on a dating app, without relying on eye contact in the wild. Your co-conspirator is your intentional dating buddy. And why people have so much dissatisfaction with their friends and their dating lives, I see, is because they don’t know how to clearly communicate how to help them. So

Bringing on a co-conspirator and having an intentional conversation, bringing your essence-based preferences to the conversation will really, really help you and help them help you. One of my favorite co-conspirator stories is from my mastermind. Two of my clients became each other’s co-conspirator. One was in New York, one was in Atlanta. Like literally, they were like, we don’t know how we’re gonna introduce people to each other, and we’re gonna try. My client who lived in New York.

Came to Atlanta for like a work thing. It was in the airport. The client who lived in Atlanta was in Bali at the time, I believe. So the the client who came from New York to Atlanta for a work thing was in the airport, struck up a conversation with a cutie, said one of my client who was in Bali’s essence-based preferences, like talked about joy, you know, and like brought something out of the conversation. Ask this person a qualifying, disqualifying question, which I’ll cover in a moment.

And the guy had a great answer, the person in the airport. And so my client from New York in the Atlanta airport was like, are you single? You know, she got to know him, she vetted him a little bit with the system that I have outlined in episode 131 of the podcast. And then she he was single, she got his number, she exchanged the number with the other client who was in Bali at the time, and they went on a few dates. That is the magic of bringing on a co-conspirator intentionally.

People get to look out for you and people get to advocate for you in rooms that you’re not even in right now. Number four, am I getting my brain coached? Am I getting my brain coached? Am I getting my brain supported? Am I in therapy? Am I um listening to podcasts that that feel aligned with my values and that are supporting my brain? Am I seeking out aligned support?

This is why people join me and want me to be their coach, because they want their brain coached in their dating lives. And I get to help them create that joyful and confident as fuck dating life that makes the right relationship inevitable. Coaching, I believe, is an incredible addition to therapy, which I think everybody deserves and needs. Coaching is the actionable piece that therapy doesn’t always give. Coaching is the the both and to therapy. And that’s why I think it’s really important.

Whether or not you are able to invest with a coach like me to get your brain coached in some way. Listen to a coach’s podcast like this one that you appreciate. Take notes. Do the actionable strategies, like be an active participant in getting yourself coached. I also love Carl Loenthiel’s podcast, Unfuck Your Brain. It’s another excellent example of like getting yourself coached, doing self-coaching. Am I getting my brain coached? Am I getting my brain supported?

And if you are not in therapy right now and you are have trouble, there are barriers to your access to uh having therapy, then uh definitely check out Bridges Mental Health, um, Loveland Foundation, and go to psychology today. Advocate for yourself, ask for a sliding scale, look for places in New York. There’s this place called NIP, National Institute of the Psychotherapies, where therapists are

Um, getting their hours. They’ve already completed their degree, they’ve cre completed training, they’re just getting their hours. And so it’s a lot, lot lot more affordable. That’s what I did when I was in my early days of New York and I was making very, very little money. I sought out a therapist who was in my budget and it worked out. Don’t allow the thought it’s not accessible to me to keep you from doing research. Advocate for yourself, take action for yourself. Number six.

Am I asking people out when I feel led? So this is the active participation part. Am I asking out people when I feel led? Am I am I going up to people and asking uh a deeper question, like, hey, like this is wild, but what’s bringing you joy lately? One of my favorite qualifying, disqualifying questions. Or am I going up and giving a compliment? If you are stuck and like paralyzed from taking that kind of action, then see the first action step, self-compassion.

Then see the second action step, essence based preferences. Then see the third, co-conspirator, bring them to the bar, bring them to the restaurant, have them encourage you to go up to somebody. Then see the next action step, coaching and therapy. Like this is an unhurried unfolding, y’all. Unhurried unfolding. I don’t know if I said this um in five or six, but this is number six for real. Do I have a joy building plan? Joy building is going out into the world and having fun.

It is an in-person dating strategy. It is a strategy to fill your cup. It is a strategy to settle-proof your dating life. It is a strategy to build new connections. Do I have a joy building plan? So with that, make a list of 10 things that would sound fun to do in the world and go do one of them this week. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. When you’re there, make eye contact with cute humans. Smile if that feels available for yourself when you feel like it.

Um, give somebody a wink. I have clients who wink at people in a non-creepy way after consensual eye contact, and uh they have a lot of fun with it. Approach people if that feels available. Like be an active participant in this shit. Okay, number seven. When my energy allows, am I making new connections and am I talking about what I want in my dating life? Am I making new connections? Am I talking about what I want in my dating life?

Talking about what you want, talking about your essence-based preferences out loud and often is a force that will draw what you want to you. And talking about your essence-based preferences, I would encourage you to have a date with a friend and bring your essence-based preferences worksheet from that episode 135 and share. Allow yourself to be seen. Allow your preferences to take up space. Allow yourself to have.

This conversation. Allow yourself to want what you want. That will lead to you being more equipped to find it because you’re more practiced at saying it out loud. If you’re trying to learn a new language, then you gotta practice. I l took eight years of French and in school and I did not speak out loud very often. And then I studied abroad in Cameroon, which is a a francophone country.

They speak French there, and I could not speak French. I was the worst in my study abroad class in in Cameroon. We were studying women’s rights and development. And I literally was in like the most basic of basic classes because in eight years of French, I did not speak a lot. And so you gotta speak the language out loud, even if it’s bumbling, even if it’s awkward, to then learn how to become fluent. You get to learn how to become fluent in what you want, which is your essence-based preferences. Number eight.

Am I using a dating app with boundaries? Am I using a dating app with boundaries? And and caveat also or l second part of that is am I using a dating app and allowing myself to be myself? Not the wittiest version of me, not the unless you’re super witty, not the I need to be SNL writer level funny. No. Not the oh I need to be cool and chill and whatever. No. No. Function of the patriarchy that like I need to be chill girl thing. Like, no.

The right person for you is looking for you. Am I am I allowing myself to be myself in this dating app? And am I using a dating app with boundaries? For that, you can listen to episode 121 of the podcast where I do a dating apps ask me anything episode. It’s really, really good. So using a dating app with boundaries means swiping on one app, not five, not three, for 20 minutes a day, using a timer, no notifications, building a profile that feels and looks uniquely like you. That

Is how you attract the person that you are uniquely qualified for because you allowing yourself to be yourself is exactly what will lead to the right relationship online and in person. Number nine, one one more to go. We have 10 total. Number nine, am I bringing in community to this process? I think all of these sort of build on each other.

Am I going back to my co-conspirator? Am I setting dates with them to talk about my dating life? This dating doesn’t have to like take up your whole life. It just gets to be this joyful expression of your desire. So am I allowing it to be something that I bring the right people along for the ride for? Side note for that is don’t talk about this with the people that give you bad dating advice. Don’t talk about this with the people who discourage you with their well-meaning advice. Don’t do set your boundaries. Don’t judge yourself for them.

And bring in the right community. This is why people join because we create the right community. We are together weekly, daily, monthly in our group coaching and our Slack channel. And those folks are meeting up in person. They’re building friendships with others who have a similar point of view and outlook on feminist dating and wanting to talk about it in a certain way, not wanting to be caught in the cycle of negative conversation. That’s another piece of this. Get out of that cycle. Stop talking shit on yourself and your dating life.

Don’t use your dating life as a joke. Allow yourself to take a deep breath. Practice self-compassion. Of course I’m feeling this way. Of course I go to a joke because I’m insecure about where I’m at in my dating life. I think I should be ahead of this right now, right? Of course, I’m not alone. This is really hard right now. I’m here for you. Saying that to yourself. Then what next? Then it gets to be, you know what?

Best friend, let’s go out to drinks and let’s talk about my essence-based preferences. And for one night, let’s not say anything negative about men, women, people that I could date. Let’s only talk in terms of possibility. What if we did that for one night? Number 10. Last, last checklist step. Am I celebrating myself? Am I celebrating myself? This is so important. Am I celebrating myself? This step is the step.

In my opinion, all of these steps with this step. Who am I kidding? Am I celebrating myself? Celebration is a dating strategy. One of my coaches said celebration is a strategy. And I think it was Gina Knox, who I love so much. Celebration is a strategy. So how do you celebrate yourself in your dating life? Do a little shimmy shake and say, good job, saying thank you more, please, out loud and often when you see something that you want, when you do something that feels aligned and juicy for you and courageous.

Celebrating yourself also could be taking yourself out on a luxurious date. Could be taking your friend on a date and starting a brag party. Hey, I’m gonna brag on myself. I want to hear your brag on yourself, and we’re just gonna spend five minutes bragging on each other and our on ourselves. Literally, what would feel celebratory? How do you like to be celebrated? And if you are uncomfortable being celebrated, that is something to examine. Probably s you were socialized to not indulge in self-celebration. It felt self-indulgent, you were labeled as

being too much for doing so, or that it was selfish, or you saw somebody in your life taking up all the air out of the room by celebrating and being braggadocious, like bro braggy on themselves. That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about brazen bragging. Celebrating yourself means allowing yourself to grow and acknowledge your own growth out loud and often. Your brain likes to hear your mouth say things because it makes it more real. If you are just like, yeah, I think it’s

If you’re treating your work that you did in this checklist as not enough, and back to the original question, am I doing enough? What is enough? How have you been socialized to believe that it’s never enough because of the patriarchal, capitalistic, white supremacist, ableist, homophobic, transphobic culture that we were all raised in, that hot soup we were steeped in? How have you labeled

Your best efforts as not enough. And how can you challenge that with self-compassion? Maybe a useful and true next step thought might be like a baby step might be, I’m practicing celebrating myself, or I am practicing learning new things. When I learn new things, I’m doing the right thing. When I trust myself, I’m doing the right thing. When I celebrate myself, I’m doing the right thing for me. Take a deep breath.

And start celebrating yourself. Even in small doses, it will make an impact. So, to recap, number one, am I practicing self-compassion? Go to self-dash compassion.org. Number two, have I done my essence-based preferences? Episode 135 of the podcast. Number three, have I chosen my co-conspirator and had a co-conspirator date? Episode 131 of the pro of the podcast. Number four, am I getting my brain coached, my brain supported by the right therapist and/or coach?

What support could I bring on my team to start making strides forward? Number five, do I have a joy building plan? Am I getting out into the world to do fun things to to like enjoy my dang life? Number six, am I asking people out when I feel led? Number seven, when my energy allows, am I making new connections and talking about what I want in my dating life? Number eight, am I on a dating app with intention? Am I swiping with boundaries? That episode 121, listen to that. Number nine, am I bringing in community to my dating life?

Am I talking to my accountability buddy, my my co-conspirator? Am I uh allowing myself to be seen? Number 10, am I celebrating myself? If you do those 10 things, if you do even one of those 10 things, you are doing enough. You, just by existing, just by listening to this podcast, just by taking one step forward, are doing beautifully enough today. And if you do all 10 of these things, not in a way of like, I am worthy if I do these 10 things. No, no, no. These are 10 things.

Suggested action steps that will create momentum in your dating life so that you can make the right relationship inevitable. And if you do just one of these things today, it is beautifully enough and you need to celebrate yourself. Celebrating needs to be a strategy for each of these steps. So with that, please print out that checklist if it serves you, if it feels good. Give yourself a heaping dose of self compassion. I am cheering you on from Brooklyn, and I believe to the core of my being.

That the right relationship is inevitable for you because you desire it. And I will be here in Brooklyn believing that for you until you can believe it for yourself. See you next time. Bye.