I wrote this book for feminist humans who want both: to be a badass feminist and find an equal, loving partnership.
This is a joyful, unconventional formula for dating that doesn’t ask you to change who you are — it helps you ask for exactly what you want and attract it with more joy than you thought possible.
And SO much more!
Embrace and celebrate your singleness without pretending you don’t want love
Ditch the rigid, self-blamey dating rules and finally trust your gut
Own your relationship preferences and be powerfully picky
Date like a feminist and attract the partnership you actually crave
If you’ve ever worried you’re “too much” or that you’d have to settle to find love, this book will help you call bullshit on all of that—and show you how to find love exactly as you are.
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Your dating life has been trapped in the patriarchal dark ages — and it’s time to get unstuck.
It’s not your fault that dating feels like a soul-sucking second job. The patriarchy has messed up how we find love, from dating apps built like slot machines that keep you endlessly swiping, to garbage advice like “Stop being so picky!” — which is code for don’t trust yourself.
Single women are still treated like they’re incomplete projects, and wanting real love is labeled “desperate.” No wonder dating has become a hot soup of exhaustion, self-doubt, and shame. All of this creates exhaustion, burnout, and the quiet fear that maybe love just isn’t in the cards for you. That’s not a personal failing. That’s a system designed to keep you small, quiet, and endlessly performing.
The tools inside are exactly what helped me and hundreds of my clients build settle-proof, joyful dating lives that make the right relationship inevitable.
Because the world doesn’t need more women waiting to be chosen. It needs you choosing yourself — and building a love life that’s joyful as fuck.
I needed to become the settle-proof CEO of my own love life. I needed to build a joyful dating life that was as brilliant as the rest of my life. And when I did, the right relationship with my husband, Chris, was the bonus.
"Couldn't put it down."
“Couldn't put it down. I love this practical, real book and the wisdom Lily offers in it. It's not filled with tired self-care about lighting candles and taking a warm bath but tangible strategies you can take to move towards a better dating life. Liberating!”
"A laugh-out-loud funny, heartwarming, and vulnerable book perfect for any woman who has ever feared that she's "too much."
“A rallying cry for all women, single and coupled alike.”
“Her bold proclamations of how women should be themselves and proudly are just what any of your friends tired of the apps needs to hear and is a rallying cry for all women, single and coupled alike.”
“A must-read for anyone ready to heal from their past and take center stage in their own love story.”
"Thank You, More Please is the dating manifesto so many of us (myself included) need. Full of practical, seriously entertaining, and insightful advice, Lily Womble invites us to stop wondering if we're ""too much,"" or doing something ""wrong,"" and instead focus on creating a joyful, non-soul-sucking dating experience for ourselves. I'm following Lily's sage advice myself because it's just that damn good and I know you will want to as well! It's a must-read for anyone ready to heal from their past and take center stage in their own love story."
“Everyone who reads this will walk away feeling smarter, more confident and encouraged."
"If you want modern, real, authentic and practical advice on how to handle dating in this new digital age, look no further than this book! Lily nails it with so much relatable, spot-on guidance — I think everyone who reads this will walk away feeling smarter, more confident and encouraged."
"Haven't been able to put it down."
“I bought this book the other day and I haven't been able to put it down. I'm learning so much and the validation and permission slips to quote trust my intuition and want what I want in quote has felt so good and the other lessons have truly changed my entire mindset about dating!”
"Thank You, More Please is a must-have guide to dating for any single, feminist human.”
Lily Womble insightfully untangles all the ways the patriarchy has screwed up how we find love, and shares a step-by-step process to creating the joyful, powerful love life you deserve. We all tend to make dating Very Serious Business but Lily brings a sense of humor, compassion, and lightness to this topic that helps it all seem much more manageable and, dare I say it, even fun?! Every single person wanting to find love should read this book!
"Literally one of the best books I’ve read this year!"
“Literally one of the best books I’ve read this year! So many beautiful lessons that can apply to every single aspect of your life outside of dating. I've literally mentioned this book to my therapist because it has helped me so much already.”
“Lily Womble is the dating coach you need in your life!”
“She is supportive, empathetic, wise —and hilarious too! Her empowering, feminist approach to dating will give you the confidence to ask for more in every area of your life.”
“Lily is a treasure trove of practical and confidence-building tips. I'm a gleefully married woman, but this book actually made me wish I could date again so I could put this brilliant advice to use!"
Farnoosh Torabi, Author of A Healthy State of Panic
Faith Jenkins, author of Sis, Don’t Settle
Vanessa Marin, author of New York Times bestselling Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life
Kara Loewentheil, host of the top-ranked UnF*ck Your Brain podcast and author of Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head - and How to Get It Out."
Tara Schuster, author of Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies and Glow in the F*cking Dark"
this book is for you
If you’re ready to date like the main character of your own damn life…
this book is for you
If you want to believe you can be a badass feminist and find an equal partner…
this book is for you
If you’re sick of apps that feel like slot machines but terrified to delete them…
this book is for you
If you secretly wonder if you’re “too much”…
this book is for you
If you’re done shrinking yourself just to keep someone interested…
this book is for you
If you were taught to play it chill but you really want to shoot your shot…
this book is for you
If you are afraid you’re “too late” for love…
I used to be one of the top matchmakers in the U.S., setting up hundreds of dates. But secretly, I was a “late bloomer”, settling in a toxic relationship and afraid that I was “too much.”
After setting up nearly 400 dates and coming to a veryyyy dramatic ending point in that toxic relationship (don’t worry, I spill all the juicy details in the book), I realized the problem wasn’t a lack of setups. It was that the way we’re taught to date is still stuck in the patriarchal dark ages, telling us to play small, be “chill,” and never want too much. I realized I was taught to settle instead of how to attract more.
Womble
If the love you want still feels out of reach — it’s time to go get it.
And it hasn’t just worked for me. These exact tools have helped hundreds of feminist humans around the world create confident, joyful-as-hell dating lives that make the right relationship inevitable.
Thank You, More Please is the book I wish I’d had when I was stuck and doubting whether the love I wanted was even possible. Inside, you’ll find my own raw, hilarious personal stories, real client case studies, and plenty of messy homework designed to help you turn these lessons into your reality.
I combined insider knowledge from the matchmaking industry with feminist mindset work and a tactical dating strategy that centers self-trust, clarity, and boldness.
This helped me break free from shame and self-doubt, create a joyful AF dating life— and ultimately attract the love of my life, my now-husband, Chris.
So I broke up with matchmaking and built the feminist, unconventional approach to dating that I desperately needed.