44. You don't have to feel lonely in your dating life
I am sharing three ways to get out of loneliness and into belonging in your dating life. Because, dating, most of the time, is lonely and frustrating. Let me share a story:
A few years back, I was in a toxic relationship.
I met him on Bumble, and at first, I thought it was perfect.
We said "I love you" quickly, and I felt relief.
Finally, someone who doesn’t think I’m “too much.”
Finally, someone to prove that I don't have to be alone.
Then after a few months, it became abundantly clear that we were not on the same page.
He didn't want a long-term commitment.
Our values were completely different.
I found myself begging him to love me the way I wanted to be loved.
I made tons of excuses, stuffed my needs away, and spent days in deep anxiety spirals, trying to figure out how to make this work.
I was ashamed to tell anyone about my situation because I knew I was accepting less than I deserved.
Following that dating experience, I was stewing in a hot soup of loneliness. If that sounds like you, I want to support you. So today I offer three ways you can get out of loneliness.
Three Ways To Get Out Of Loneliness In Your Dating Life Now:
Follow people who normalize and love their singleness. Take inventory of your relationships (social media, included), take note of what triggers your loneliness, shift your time and your energy.
Journal why you feel lonely in your dating life and share this in a conversation with your closest friend.
Find a community that gets you... with other single women that are right there with you (i.e. Celebrate Your Single-Self-Challenge!)
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