79. The impact of trauma on your dating life (and how to get the support you need) with Julia Hochstadt, LCSW
I am talking with Julia Hochstadt, LCSW, about how trauma can show up in your dating life and what you can to do get support. Many of the people I work with get support from trauma therapists. Trauma deeply affects dating, their love lives and impacts their healing process. Because I am not an expert on the topic, I invited Julia to share information and resources around abuse, trauma, and dating.
Julia is a psychotherapist who has been working with survivors of trauma and crime in hospital-based and private practice settings for over two decades. She holds a Master's Degree in Social Work from Columbia University. Our goal for this conversation is to bring to the forefront that domestic violence and abuse affect a lot of people. If you or someone you care about could benefit from information or support, know that help is out there.
Trigger warning: In this episode, we talk about the themes of abuse and trauma. If that's something you know wouldn't serve you in your journey today, then please skip this episode.
Here’s a breakdown of today’s episode:
The difference between big T trauma versus little T trauma.
How unprocessed trauma manifests in a person’s dating life.
How to decipher between dating nerves versus nerves related to unresolved trauma.
The process of tapping into your body and trusting your gut.
Sharing your past trauma or abuse with someone when you are afraid.
Advice to family, friends, or partners who might be on the receiving end of a loved one’s personal disclosure of past abuse or trauma.
What we can do with the emotions that come up whenever a news story surfaces about men in power, like former Governor Andrew Cuomo, who violate the people around them.
Advice and insight for individuals resisting help from a therapist or dealing with other barriers to receiving support.
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
Julia Hochstadt, LCSW 212-613-6204 // 201-374-7444
Safe Horizon DV hotline 1-800-621-HOPE (4673)
National DV hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
RAINN: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) www.RAINN.org
Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
NYC Family Justice Centers https://www1.nyc.gov/site/ocdv/programs/family-justice-centers.page
NY Coalition Against Domestic Violence https://www.nyscadv.org/ (518) 482-5465
NJ Coalition to end Domestic Violence http://www.njcedv.org/ 1-800 572-7233
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